What you are not aware of will control you. That is why integrating your shadow is very important. The shadow is what you are pushing down and not acknowledging; and when you do that you become fragmented and when you are fragmented you cannot fully express who you are.
In order to be ‘whole’ you need to discover the importance of accepting and understanding the value of your shadow despite the fact that you probably want to resist this because you have judged this part of yourself to be ‘undesirable’.
It is necessary for you to have a good look at what you are suppressing so you can see how some elements of it can actually be of value to you so you can integrate them into your life.
You are so much more than ‘good’ or ‘nice’ or whatever qualities you’ve been striving for. So long as you limit yourself to what you ‘like’ in yourself you will not be able to grow into the full human being that you really are, liberating your creativity and fulfilling your truest desires.